Lou Lewis lived with a problem drinker for 29 years until his death from cancer. For many years she has had her own counselling practice where she helps people with many different issues, including living with a problem drinker.
John McMahon was a drunk, going on drinking sprees for days and even weeks at a time. He was hospitalised and given 6 months to live. That was over 27 years ago and he has not had a drink since. He has worked in the alcohol field as a lecturer, research and counsellor for most of that time.
Together they have combined and distilled their experience and knowledge into Bottled Up, bringing a rare grounding of having 'lived it' to the research and theory. They created a program that has the purpose of educating, supporting and, most importantly, empowering the partners of drinkers.
The members' website is full of articles about the issue. It also has workbooks and exercises to help members address some of the issues and around 30 hours of audios discussing possible solutions. Perhaps the most powerful aspect of the website is the community that has emerged as the members support each other in a safe environment. If you want to find out more about this website click on the image above.
What Members of Bottled Up say
By staying calm and applying the principles I read about I have managed to open a more meaningful dialogue with my partner, and she has sought out therapy on her own.
I started to recover from the effects drinking has had on me. I do not feel sorry for myself anymore. Since arming myself with all this information, the dipping in and out of the discussion forum, life has become better, more manageable for me. I am extremely grateful and consider myself lucky to have found this wonderful site. Life can only get better no matter what the outcome, I now know that I can handle it.
Thank you so much for coming up with a wonderful name (in itself a major help) and for providing an alternative to AA for those of us who have no interest in following steps, doctrines or moulds.
Member of Bottled Up